Possible and Plausible

I think I may have stumbled on the answer to a mystery. I've been so mystified by my husband's behavior. The only explanation I could see being that he was having some kind mental health issue due to stress. Until today. I was visiting M (Indy), and we were talking about a mutual acquaintance. Mutual … Continue reading Possible and Plausible →

Wednesday and Thursday

Wednesday was okay. Better than Tuesday had been. About an hour more for sleep, still felt kind of anxious and sad when I woke up, but managed to knock that out with my walk. Spent my time in a similar fashion - came home, showered, ate, and then went to two more Goodwills to continue … Continue reading Wednesday and Thursday →

Processing

I'll admit I felt pretty good this morning about having stood up to my husband yesterday. Telling him no, telling him I had a legal right to live in an apartment with my name on the lease, and that if he wanted me out he could get a court order - but he'd have to … Continue reading Processing →

Update: Interpersonal “Fun”

I went to my first meet-up today. When I got home I found that my husband was in a very bad mood. I'll admit, I'm not innocent on that one. I was so upset with how he'd acted yesterday that I told him where I was going, when, for what, and sent him a selfie … Continue reading Update: Interpersonal “Fun” →

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

I'm finding it grimly amusing that trying to convince my husband to see a therapist seems to be backfiring on all fronts. I genuinely wanted him to get help and healing and learn how to move forward with his life in healthy ways, but I'm reminded that no therapist can help someone that doesn't think … Continue reading No Good Deed Goes Unpunished →

Interpersonal “Fun”

So, Thursday afternoon I was dreading Friday, because Friday was when my husband and I were going to have our end of the month check-in, and I was going to have to bring up finances. I decided I'd try and do something positive that would give me something to look forward to later, as that … Continue reading Interpersonal “Fun” →

When It’s Not Abuse Or Infidelity

I've been thinking about my relationship. How people understand and accept the dissolution of a relationship for reasons of abuse and infidelity - you really don't have to offer much in the way of explanation or detail if either of those reasons are the reason for it ending. If neither of those are the reason, … Continue reading When It’s Not Abuse Or Infidelity →

The Effects of Distress

I had to deal with another mental health crisis today. It went from me crying and clutching a wad of snotty tissues on a riverbank to selecting a road to drive on just to drive, to finally having to pull over about an hour away from home and majorly embarrass myself for a 2nd time … Continue reading The Effects of Distress →

Silver Lining

The silver lining of repressing and compartmentalizing your emotions since childhood is that sometimes the ability to set aside your emotions is actually a useful tool. I felt a twinge, last night, seeing the signs of emotional distress on my husband's face, but I wasn't going to allow that moment of empathy to become a … Continue reading Silver Lining →

I Held The Line

My husband decided he couldn't wait for the end of the month before bringing up another emotionally fraught conversation, and I held my boundaries and I called him out on his shit - repeatedly - until HE fled the conversation that he insisted on starting. Now he's wandering around the house looking like death, because … Continue reading I Held The Line →