I have to attempt to become enough of a functional adult within a year that I’ll be able to become independent by the end of next year. No pressure.
I wrote the following:
Sleep (regular, long enough, restful)
Environment (uncluttered and clean enough)
Social life (hobbies I enjoy where I can meet people and hopefully make friends, plus meeting people I know face-to-face)
Employment (wardrobe, make-up, managing anxiety, training/certification, pays enough)
Exploration (getting out of the house & seeing new places, exercise)
This list – actually seems doable. Which is a huge relief.
Obviously this is dependent on being able to maintain my mental health over the next year – but as A pointed out, what’s on my list are also things that are known to improve mental health. Working on my list will be working on maintaining my mental health at the same time.
I also don’t have to do all of this the first month I get there. I can focus on prep to start – making a good sleep schedule and household cleanliness a habit, and updating my wardrobe for instance, before moving on to the items that might be more stressful, like getting started on my social life and seeking employment.
I won’t say I’m not feeling a little anxious, still. The pressure feels lessened, though.
I had most of this nailed by age 19, minus the regular sleep schedule. I was working the graveyard shift, taking college courses and maintaining a social life, so I willingly sacrificed regular sleep back then. And, now that I think about it – most of it happened within the course of a year.
If I could do it once, I should be able to do it again.
You know, provided the universe doesn’t throw a cow at my head.