I'm sure I earned another dollop of ire this morning by leaving the house early without telling my husband where I was going. My appointment wasn't until 9:45 but it was raining and I had to drive into downtown Indy so I wanted to give myself plenty of time. I am really glad I went. … Continue reading Legal Aid
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Bitter Truths
I'm having to face some tough realizations. My husband used me, for years. However he justified it to himself, he chose to stay in a relationship where he knew he had inordinate power and got what he wanted from me, and he used me year after year after year. He never did anything meaningful to … Continue reading Bitter Truths
Communication
So this morning I was out of the house just after 9. Went to the library, started charging my phone, tried to calm my nerves a bit and then called legal aid. The automated message informed me that if my hold time exceeded 20 minutes, I'd be disconnected. At 17 minutes, someone answered. Now I … Continue reading Communication
The End of the Month Conversation
Yesterday I woke up with the beginnings of a tension headache and my chest hurting. I was anxious about how the monthly conversation with my husband would go. He wanted to get to it right away after our youngest daughter had left for school. He said he didn't really have anything to talk about, but … Continue reading The End of the Month Conversation
A Look Back
I've been browsing through my older blog entries today. It's hard to believe it's only been about 6 months. I feel like I've lived several lifetimes in that 6 months. I've confirmed my husband was acting weird and insecure and paranoid before I developed feelings for someone else, and before I was honest with him … Continue reading A Look Back
How Do I Feel?
I still feel pretty positive that my intuition is on the right track and that at some point, my husband stepped out on me and subsequently kept it a secret. I had no idea how to feel about that. My body physically reacted with a ton of anxiety. My guts spilled their guts, so to … Continue reading How Do I Feel?
Possible and Plausible
I think I may have stumbled on the answer to a mystery. I've been so mystified by my husband's behavior. The only explanation I could see being that he was having some kind mental health issue due to stress. Until today. I was visiting M (Indy), and we were talking about a mutual acquaintance. Mutual … Continue reading Possible and Plausible
Processing
I'll admit I felt pretty good this morning about having stood up to my husband yesterday. Telling him no, telling him I had a legal right to live in an apartment with my name on the lease, and that if he wanted me out he could get a court order - but he'd have to … Continue reading Processing
Update: Interpersonal “Fun”
I went to my first meet-up today. When I got home I found that my husband was in a very bad mood. I'll admit, I'm not innocent on that one. I was so upset with how he'd acted yesterday that I told him where I was going, when, for what, and sent him a selfie … Continue reading Update: Interpersonal “Fun”
No Good Deed Goes Unpunished
I'm finding it grimly amusing that trying to convince my husband to see a therapist seems to be backfiring on all fronts. I genuinely wanted him to get help and healing and learn how to move forward with his life in healthy ways, but I'm reminded that no therapist can help someone that doesn't think … Continue reading No Good Deed Goes Unpunished
On A Good Day 