Mediation

I left the house a few minutes early, moved my car so it wasn't right next to our building and joined the Zoom meeting. The paralegal standing in for my lawyer explained that my lawyer was on a hearing at the moment and would join in a bit. What she expected to take her 30 … Continue reading Mediation →

The Limits of Crowd-Sourcing

I am now dealing with a divorce while seeking to reenter the work force. This had me pondering which was worse - telling the recruitment agency I'm in the middle of a divorce, or withholding that information until the point I'm in the middle of an assignment and asking for time off so I can … Continue reading The Limits of Crowd-Sourcing →

The Upper Hand

Friday I went to see M (Indy). She's having a tough January - she got laid off after a merger, and she's been dealing with stress from her family. After I arrived she said her husband had contacted her and needed his second pair of work boots, due to having discovered a hole in the … Continue reading The Upper Hand →

Flames On The Side Of My Face

So my husband wanted to go over the divorce paperwork. I'd already told him I wouldn't be filling anything out or signing anything, but it seemed important to him and I decided I'd go along with that. We walked over to the library, in silence most of the way except when we walked through a … Continue reading Flames On The Side Of My Face →

Paradigm Shift

I had been a little more raw and emotional than usual in what I said in the group chat with A and H after leaving my therapist appointment. I apologized, sheepishly, and said that it was grounding to say something when my brain wanted to pick a direction and then drive until I couldn't. H … Continue reading Paradigm Shift →

Just A Hole, Part 2

I woke up Friday morning feeling on edge, but my emotions were otherwise still comfortably numbed. My husband offered to make coffee after I got up. I accepted his offer and then went to get my shower so my hair would have some time to dry before leaving for my appointment with the my therapist. … Continue reading Just A Hole, Part 2 →

Just A Hole, Part 1

Yesterday I messaged my husband that we would need to set aside time to discuss the 30th - the day we tell our kids about the divorce and make a public announcement. He wanted it to be sooner rather than later, so we arranged that we'd discuss it at Starbucks Thursday night after supper. I … Continue reading Just A Hole, Part 1 →

The Life I Want

I've had multiple people assume, in a negative way, that I'm divorcing my husband in order to get the life I want. Honestly, my first reaction was to be outraged that they think THIS is the life I want - to be a divorced mom of four on the cusp of 40, dealing with mental … Continue reading The Life I Want →

Charitable Interpretations

I recently posted about having to face some hard truths about my husband and our relationship. I had a post from a year ago, December 2018, pop up in Facebook's feed today. In it, I said my posts about feminism, my posts condemning patriarchy, had nothing to do with my own relationship. I praised my … Continue reading Charitable Interpretations →

Irrationality

I had talked to the police the same day I talked to legal aid. Having guns in the house has been making my anxiety worse. I wanted to know if I'd be allowed to legally remove them and store them with a friend or family member. The answer was yes. Everything in the apartment belongs … Continue reading Irrationality →