My husband moved most of our funds to his new account. He’s generously leaving me 1k to ‘do what I want with.’ I haven’t had the heart to ask him, yet, if he’s expecting me to use it to pay for a work wardrobe, gas and whatever other expenses I have this year, or if my expenses will continue to come out of what were joint funds, regardless of his status as breadwinner.
I put my life on the line four times to bring the children that are the light of his life into the world. Endured months of sickness and years of sleep deprivation. Lost my stellar metabolism and ended up with permanently damaged abdominal muscles. Sacrificed my education and career prospects, which were better than his when we were first dating. Set aside my dreams and my hobbies and my social life.
He thinks I could have pushed myself harder so that I didn’t fall this far behind. While he spent years carelessly sacrificing my sleep to his insomnia and ignoring what I said about the changes I needed.
Apparently because I’m choosing to leave when he doesn’t want me to leave, all of that was worth approximately 1k, plus a begrudgingly spent 16k on a new vehicle, because he feels obligated to make sure the mother of his children can get employment. 17k for 16 years doing my best to give him the life he wanted at great cost to myself.
I guess including this year that brings it to 17, that’ll be approximately 1k per year. Stellar wages for the effort I put in. Guess anything less than a lifetime is a largely worthless when it comes to “women’s work.”